As we all know, there is no guarantee that the one you love won’t cheat. Some say that given the perfect set of circumstances, anyone could give in to temptation. I wish I could sell you some magic ‘faithful dust’ that would break down the chemical reaction that takes place when two people are attracted to each other, so you wouldn’t have any cause for concern. Unfortunately, I don’t have any magic dust, so it’s up to us to do whatever we can to keep our partners interested, which is key.
 
First things first:  What is the basic reason we want to have sex with a particular person? Sexual attraction! And what is the first thing that almost always causes the attraction? Looks! 

Okay, we know we can’t make everyone else in the world ugly, but we can do something about our own appearance. I know, that’s superficial, blah, blah, blah…. Do you want me to blow smoke, or do you want the truth? I’m a truth girl, so here it is. When it comes to sex appeal, intelligence, moral character, and a good family just don’t factor in. In a perfect world, they would, but we don’t live in a perfect world. We’re here, so we have to face the facts. The first thing that attracts us to a potential mate (99.9% of the time) is physical appearance.
 
There are some things we can’t change, such as genetics. If you’re short, you can’t make yourself tall. But there are ways in which we can make the most of what we have. Most of it is simple logic. In order to be healthy, we have to eat a healthy diet, drink plenty of water, get eight hours of sleep each night, and get adequate exercise. I mean, be honest–what’s sexy about someone who has let himself go? Would it really get your juices flowing if your partner had gained 100 pounds and got winded while walking to the kitchen to get another bowl of ice cream?
 
Some more basic suggestions are as follows:  Shower and shave! It might sound silly to most, but many people neglect their hygiene unless they are going out. If your wife comes home to find you wearing the same clothes you wore for the past week, unshaven and smelling funky, it’s unlikely that she will be tearing off your nasty clothes, wanting desperately to make love to you. Clean up and dab on some cologne!
 
The same goes for you, ladies. Sweat pants and pony tails are okay sometimes. They might be comfortable, but they certainly aren’t sexy to most guys, especially if it’s your everyday attire. Some nice jeans and a pretty top, or maybe a sundress, would be a nice surprise for your guy. Doing your hair and adding a little makeup, cologne, and nail polish goes a long way, too. (And don’t forget to shave or wax–very important!)
 
The more you do to make yourself attractive to your partner, the more he will appreciate you, and the less vulnerable he will be when, not if, faced with temptation. Feeling unsatisfied, unappreciated and unloved makes us weaker, so anything we can do to prevent our partners from feeling that way should work in our favor.
 
Think of what would make you feel good. You can think of something your partner would enjoy. How about a nice, home-cooked meal for him, or maybe a night out at her favorite restaurant? Or a massage? You get the idea. 

How long has it been since you and your partner sat together and held hands? What about taking a shower or bath together? It’s important that you reconnect (or stay connected) with your partner. Write a note, a letter, or maybe a poem telling your partner how special he is. Write a sexy note on the bathroom mirror with a bar of soap or a Sharpie. Affection is essential and can’t be over-emphasized.
 
Okay, now for the most obvious thing–SEX! After you’ve been together for a while, the excitement in the bedroom usually begins to fade a bit… or a lot. It’s up to each of us to keep it from getting boring. Instead of pushing the buttons in the usual order, only long enough to “git ‘er done,” mix it up. Linger where you normally don’t even go. Try something new. You know what your partner likes–do it! The more you do for him, the more he will want to do for you.
 
Get a sitter and have some fun with your partner! It could mean the difference in him saying “yes” or “no” the next time temptation crosses his path! If there’s any chance that we can prevent infidelity, we have to be proactive and do it.
 
I don’t think that any of this is big news, but sometimes it takes pointing out the obvious to make us think about the things we do every day without thinking. Things we do affect those around us, so we need to think about those effects, and try to do what we can to make ourselves and our homes more appealing to our partners. It might just make them want to be at home, rather than having that night on the town “with the guys.”